Fade to black

Why does this continue to happen. I keep getting guys stuck in the good enough for now stage. Which is basically the settling until something better comes along. I don't want people in either of those options but also have a hard time of figuring out how to move them along. I'm not trying hold on to a guy and wait for something better to come along...I don't want to leave one guy just to move on to the next.

The thing is I'm stuck on the whole jealousy issue. This chick that is in love with him is "supposedly" coming out to visit him. He says he doesn't know anything about it, but she's mention it a few times on his fb that she's looking at flights. The only thing I know about her is that she has a boyfriend (which apparently doesn't mean anything to her) and that Wheelin thinks she's stupid. Which he may have just said to try and make me feel better about her.

Found out another chick that I hadn't noticed on his page (because I de-friended him for over a month) loves to lay claim to him to. She did come out recently to visit and hang out with him. At that time he told me a friend came in to town and that was it. I didn't ask any questions.

So...I'm a very competitive person, but when it comes to guys I have ZERO interest in competing. Pick me or move on, its not a big deal. I think Wheelin is just having fun and enjoying the attention. I just don't want any part of it. This is a shitty feeling. I may be the only one sleeping with him, but that doesn't make me feel any better. I'd rather be alone...just friends. It just seems that every time I try to move it back to the friend category or have a conversation regarding it it doesn't seem to work out. The last time we had this retarded talk he left it up to me...told me that whatever I chose, he would support. For a while now my gut has been screaming to just be friends. Other parts of me scream for something different.

I have a counselor...I can't do all this fixing on my own, it requires some professional help and guidance. We figured out I have abandonement issues. So I go into a relationship expecting it to end or to be left. She also told me that whenever I feel the need to have the "Where is this relationship going" or the "What exactly are we doing together" speech to tell myself to shut up. So I'm partially following that. I've backed off of Wheelin and am trying to avoid talking to him again...trying to make him fade to the background a bit. Problem is he's wondering why I'm being so quiet and aloof. Talking it out with him never seems to make it any better, so I don't know what to do. Right now I'll continue with what I'm currently doing...avoiding him and blaming it on something else like school and work.