It always amazes me finding out how people perceive me or others... Sometimes it seems like they're so off base but then I wonder what makes them come to these conclusions. I've been called cold...I was told that by someone who I had known for 14 years. This was a guy I use to hang out with me and the ex on a regular basis. Another guy told me he had no idea how cool I was till we started hanging out post-ex that all he knew was what my ex had said about me, (which turned out to be pretty unflattering). So I've been trying to figure out what the hell it is I'm doing that causes people (mainly guys) to see me so differently. With chicks it seems most of them have a fairly good idea of who I am.
My conclusion is that when I was a kid and guys weren't interested in me...or I was completely unaware...I never cared what they thought. Then as I got older and had some great friends that were guys who all of a sudden after years of friendship started professing their love to me and making the whole thing very awkward it made me realize that maybe I was doing something to encourage this. Once I had a boyfriend I never wanted to give someone a mixed signal so I started treating them differently. Guess I got that clue from the Ex who was worried about one of his buddies "honey hogging" me away from him. Well I wanted Ex to feel secure so I was a bit more standoffish with his friend. Anyone he felt was threat I backed off from. Now that I've been the one screwed over by a "friend" I'm even more standoffish of a guy's friends (the guy I'm seeing). So I'm wondering if I should reprogram myself. It's so automatic that its almost unnoticeable to me that I even do it. Does anyone else understand....does anyone else do this?
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