Jerk vs Nice Guy

I have experience dating jerks...very little experience dating nice guys. Not sure if I've ever truly dated a nice guy. The only guy that came closest to that I ended up having the cops help him pack his stuff while he moved out of my condo. Its nothing I'm proud of but now that I look back on it, turns out its made it difficult to date a nice guy. Why???? Because nice guys are nice to everyone...jerks are usually only nice to the people they really like. As in the next person they will be sleeping with or their buddies. So when you get use to that MO its difficult to be around someone that everyone loves and not feel insecure. Or maybe I'm just insecure....but then that would make for a very short blog and I wouldn't get this stuff off my chest, so I'll contemplate more on that later.

When you're with a jerk and he does something special and nice for you it means a lot, because it was something that he did just for you. Something to make you realize that you mean something to them and they are going against their grain to make you happy. When a nice guy does something nice for you that he would do for pretty much anyone else in his life...its not the same. For me it gets to the point where I can't read a nice guy...no idea if I'm making a big deal out of their kindness when in reality I should just be thankful that I was included in their circle. How do you know if a nice guy really likes you?

I don't want a jerk anymore. Tired of jerks. So I really need to figure this nice guy thing out. Need to get over everyone liking my nice guy and realize thats part of the reason I like them so much. I stumbled (after some serious internet research; looking for something else) on an old site Wheelin use to have, that his ex made for him when he was over in Iraq. Found all these posts people had left him with well wishes and their love...made me realize that people have always told him how much they missed him and loved him. That they have no motives but to let him know he is cared for. Have to remind myself that when he runs to damsels (his female friends) in distress, that he's just being him and cares about his friends in return. I can deal with that...is probably going to be a lot harder than it should be for me. Anyone experience anything like this?