Hate being jealous...hate feeling jealous. I use to be really hard on myself about being a jealous person. Always thought it was my fault for feeling insecure. Ex-husband use to get irritated with me for it. We argued for 9 years over a chick that he was friends with. He always told me how they were just friends that he liked talking to her about past stuff, they had crap in common. The chick, wanted nothing to do with me...she made that clear. So for years we despised eachother and he fought to keep her in his life. Got to the point where I ended up telling him to never mention her to me again. I couldn't deal with it, it bothered and hurt me too much. Since I never wanted to give him an ultimatum (hate ultimatums) he kept her around, she lived in another state which was also the reason he didn't understand why it bothered me so much. After 9 years of arguing and coming to tears over this bitch I found out that they were having a relationship. From what I was told it wasn't physical but they pretty much were in love with eachother. I found this a couple weeks after my oldest daughter was born. I was crushed...and told him that it was her or me. Fastforward a few years and he ups and leaves for XBFF.
So now I'm feeling jealous again. Its just too de-ja-vu for me. Freakin Wheelin. Has a chick on his page that is often telling him how much she misses and loves him...and woohoo she's looking for plane tickets to come out and visit him. Turn tail and run sounds like the perfect option right now. Or being childish and posting pics on someone else's crotch rocket sounds like the right course of action. How freaking old am I? When is it ok to be jealous? Who's fault is it? What the hell is going on...?
Post traumatic stress is very real. The fact that you have concerns Wheelin's going to do the same thing xh did is valid. However, trying to ruin it first is not a good idea. Sounds like this relationship is, overall, working for you right now.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that Wheelin is talking to you about her is a good sign. Is he hiding anything about her from you? If so, ask him why. If not, it could be innocent. Honestly, I think it's inappropriate he's contacting her.
My two cents is that men are often at a completely different maturity level when it comes to relationships. They just don't measure up to commitment unless led.
Bless their stupid little hearts.